Why You're Not Far From Having Your Kanye Moment
Have you ever had a moment when you just don't feel okay? You don't sound like yourself, You don't feel like yourself and you're not just tired but feeling exhausted or overwhelmed? Then you my dear aren't far from a Kanye moment. Even if you don't feel very much like I described you still aren't far away from having a mental melt down because it can happen to everyone.
So what is a Kanye moment? Kanye West recently went on a few rants during his concerts. We all know he can jump off the the deep end pretty quickly with his words but these last few were different. He accused close friends of betrayal, ended concerts after just 3 songs and shared some views that absolutely made us think he's just lost it. Then fast forward to last weekend when we found out he cancelled the entire last leg of his tour and checked into a hospital. The point where you feel you are in a pile of quick sand with no way out. That's a Kanye moment.
This is not a blog to come to Kanye's aid but what people fail to realize is that this man spends most of his time in the spotlight, has been on tour for months, his wife recently experienced trauma and he's coming up to the anniversary of his mother's death. If this was you how would you have handled it?
Exhaustion. It's real and there's this unspoken theory that we can work at capacity at all times with no consequences. There is a difference between working hard and working too hard. There has to be some type of balance with work, your physical health and your mental well being. Celebrity or not you have to realize when you're approaching your breaking point. The smallest of things can put you over the edge and BAM you're full blown umbrella-swinging Britney Spears. That ain't cute!
So what can you do to avoid a Kanye, Britney or Mariah moment?
1. Check In With Yourself
And do it often! Many times we are on the go, go, go and so consumed with moving towards the next project or tasks that we don't check up on ourselves. This morning as I was getting dressed I noticed that it was so overwhelming to just put on my clothes for the day. I took a moment to check in, understand what I was feeling and where it was coming from. That small bit of time to check in changed my mood. Sometimes all it may take is a couple minutes just to breathe. Don't underestimate the power of a little meditation.
2. Learn to Say "No"
You have the right to say no when you feel a project, task, event or request cannot be added to your to-do list. If you have reached your limit with all that you have going on then say, 'no.' I am a huge advocate of the word, 'yes,' but its not worth it if you don't have the time, resources or capacity to carry it out successfully. The opportunity will present itself again if its meant for you.
3. Incorporate Self Care into Your Routine
You should do something for yourself everyday to make you feel good. Some days your treat can be big like taking a day off and other days it may be something small like 30 minutes of quiet time. Not only does it make you feel better and relieve stress but you also have something to look forward to during a stressful day. Other things you can do for yourself may be yoga, having ice cream, a pedicure or reading a good book.
At this time of year when deadlines are approaching and final reports are due, make sure to take notice to your personal signs of exhaustion. Don't ignore them because early detection will allow you to fix the issue and avoid spiraling out of control. We're all human, its normal and you're not expected to be a super hero. Just remember that everyone is not far from a Kanye moment.
See you at the top,
The Young Professionalist